Isn’t that all places where Men congregate in which to get laid? I finally resumed watching that hilarious show now moved to the CW from Max which is their loss frankly, but ours as well as the budget has eliminated the shack the rejected F boys were sent to versus the Mansion the “nice guys” were sent to post eviction. If you have not watched this series you are missing out on one of the finer parodies of Dating shows that define reality TV. I find most of my time trying to figure how what job/profession they have other than “Entrepreneur”. Which now brings me to my synopsis of the other dating show, the Golden Bachelor that is still cooking up its stew of pain and rejection. I d o find it odd that despite the fact that given the ages of the individuals involved you would think they would have changed the equation somewhat; however, it may explain why they did only three hometown dates and cut it to only two “fantasy” ones, there is only so much a 72 year old man can handle.
I expected better from Grown ups, I would be wrong. I read this take on the show (below) from the New York Times and with that I agree with much of what is expressed by the Writers. The reality is that “reality” is all but avoided in these shows. The social isolation which we know from Covid is not healthy for one’s mental well being and I watched several women have clear issues over not being picked for a date, jealousy and of course distress over the concept of their “beloved” and hitting the “I am falling in love” mark right off the bat. Watching a 72 year old man navigate that with “You’re my girl” to finally saying it to one final contestant was to say the least weird. None of them should be even discussing that and should be realistic when even the Children expressed concern over how the distance would work in regards to courtship and longevity you could see them trying to be supportive but at one point when the cameras were off thinking or even saying, WHAT THE FUCK!” There Mothers/Sisters/Grandmother is going to sell her home, change her life and move to Indiana for a man she met on a TV show? Really, she is? But given what I saw the level of co-dependence and emotional instability that the final three demonstrated over a piece of ass was enough for me to think they would. Or not if a family member actually intervened.
When I watched the dates I recall the arrival of the Women and all were to say the least very attention seeking. One arrived on a Motorcycle, another came out of the limo with an old lady outfit and walker and stripped down to show a fit gorgeous woman in a slinky gown (she was the the one Prince fucked back in the day and that seems to be her entry ticket and free dinner invite) and the last was a Grandmother who arrived in a Bathrobe and said it was her Birthday and she wanted to arrive in her birthday suit and took off her bathrobe to reveal skin tight SKIM dress. Yes this woman is 71 years old. And all of them fit the “type” that clearly appealed to Gary, dyed long brown hair, thin and to say the least doe eyed and needy. The more interesting women were quickly dispatched and two self evicted wisely for family emergencies another for an injury sustained during Pickleball. Yes, bonding over trauma and physical disabilities is a theme here on the Golden Bachelor.
I am unclear why anyone would participate in this show, the dates seemingly were arranged to either invite terror or injury including flying in a helicopter when a Woman admitted being afraid of flying and heights. Another on an ATV vehicle that neither should be on and of course the rousing game of Pickleball, romance novel cover photo shoots and the ending which always is in hot tubs. Less about sexy and more about soothing frankly after the exhausting flash mob dancing and carnival riding adventure you need a good soak. Seriously, who thinks of this shit?
The family meetups are of course a process but as I have not watched the Bachelor in years, I know that the family is just that, the nuclear one and not extended one and certainly no Single Parents are included as that avoids sticky ex situations and well meeting one’s children. So to meet Grandchildren and involve them once again hit the icky mark and I did not find it cute. Shocking, I know. Not really.
Do people not go to therapy anymore and with that I knew instantly that too much revelation after weeks of avoidance is not a great way to meet and greet. The Woman from Benton City who lives on a farm is not a top choice. She has a lot of baggage emotionally and frankly riding a horse to the Tavern is not something I see happening in this man’s future. And in real life they would never meet and this would not be even a possibility. Then we the former sexy dancer (in case you have not heard that yet) in Minneapolis with the dead Dad at 16, and a forgotten mention that she has been married twice, and the real kicker – she is Jewish. I had not noticed the Star of David she wears and then I realized she knots it up with her other necklace at the Mansion but at home has it proudly displayed in her cleavage. Yeah, I don’t see WASP Gerry bringing that home to the family. But okay. This is why you discuss these issues of Religion, Race, Culture, Sex and Sexuality (as I suspect one of the Contestants son is also Gay) and the big one – Politics. Yeah, at 60 you are pretty vested in that one especially in today’s culture. Not having these discussions is deceptive and absurd. Again I did laugh when the Sexy Dancer (Leslie is her name) threw herself up into Gerry’s arms upon seeing him, and he immediately set her down. Yeah, that Hot Tub is looking good about now.
And this is why I love F Boy Island as despite that it possesses all the same principals and concepts, the Men are hilarious. They actually fight, establish Bro-mances and have no problem expressing their overall disdain for the Women when evicted. One just said, “I find you a Golddigger and btw I am a Nice Guy” Okay then! One whose Brother arrived as a part of the late entry clause where former contestants return, immediately said he was 40% into another Girl and stepped away from the sole Black woman to let his Brother have at it… having that his Brother was on last years show and won but needed I guess to come back to have another check cut. Yes that is the catch on FBoy. If the Woman picks the “nice guy” she gets 100K to decide to keep or share with her nice boy. If she picks an “F Boy” he decides the outcome. I love this show it is utterly without duplicity. Its about money folks, love no. Now that is one Golden Bachelor I would be totally vested in.
I have printed below the most recent discussion from the NY Times and with that I am glad this finally comes to an end soon, with the final two revealed and the Women Tell All (which may actually be revealing and honest). And then finally the fantasy dates, although I am switching to hard liquor as the fucking part is not something I care to see at all. Do you want a Blue pill or a Red one Gerry. Pick that Blue one Gerry you are going to need it.
Engaging and Aging on ‘The Golden Bachelor’
Two members of The New York Times’s Culture section discuss how a twist on a decades-old reality series has become must-watch television.
By Sarah Bahr | Nov. 2, 2023 | The New York Times
In August, Julia Jacobs visited a Mediterranean-style mansion in Agoura Hills, Calif., the backdrop of “The Golden Bachelor.” The show is a spinoff of the popular “Bachelor” reality TV franchise, with a surprising twist: Participants are at least 60 years old.
“The show is coming at a time when there are expanding sensibilities around who is fit to fall in love on television,” said Jacobs, a Culture reporter for The New York Times who visited the set for an article about the reality dating series.
In the show’s premiere on Sept. 28, viewers met Gerry Turner (pronounced Gary), a 72-year-old widowed retiree from Indiana looking for romance, and nearly two dozen women hoping to court him on national television. Their relationships unfold on-air every Thursday.
Audiences seem to be loving it: The series premiere was the most watched debut for a “Bachelor” franchise season since 2021 and the most watched of any “Bachelor” premiere on the streaming platform Hulu.
But it isn’t all coming up roses: Amanda Hess, a critic at large for The Times, wrote in a recent column about how the show portrays older women. The contestants, she noted, engage in stunts like riding a motorcycle to set and performing a “ludicrous” striptease involving a walker.
“It celebrates older people, but only if they fit a very narrow image of youthful sexiness,” she said.
In a recent conversation, Jacobs and Hess discussed the series’s multigenerational appeal and the ways it differs from past “Bachelor” seasons. This interview has been edited and condensed.
Are you fans of “The Bachelor”?
AMANDA HESS I’ve watched many seasons, and I’ve been saying for years that they should do a “Bachelor” with widows and divorcées. So I was excited to see this version.
JULIA JACOBS I’m not a dedicated viewer, but I do really like writing about dating shows.
Some readers may ask: Why is The Times covering this reality TV show?
HESS It tells a story about how we see ourselves and how we see older people, how we see marriage and second marriage. It becomes an entry point for a conversation that I think our readers are interested in engaging with.
JACOBS It was a huge topic of interest on social media, and even at a senior center in New Jersey, where I went to watch the first episode. For some people, the “Bachelor” franchise feels like the same old show — season after season — and this twist was injecting something new and worth talking about.
Other than the age of the contestants, what sets this show apart from other versions of “The Bachelor”?
HESS The stakes are so high because many of the women have been married before. Many lost their spouses. They know what marriage is like. That, to me, makes the show both more compelling and harder to watch.
JACOBS There isn’t as much drama between the women. Typically you have a lot of women pulling each other out of dates like, “Can I grab him for a second?” But that doesn’t really happen here.
HESS The drama is happening within each person.
Why do you think this show is resonating with viewers across generations?
JACOBS The discussions between Gerry and the women he’s dating are more substantive. These women have already lived six or seven decades. They have careers and families. This show does not define their lives. And I think that has allowed them to be a bit more free in their dialogue.
HESS I’ve done several profiles of artists and celebrities who are in their 70s and 80s. People in their 20s are building their careers and their personas, but if you interview people who are older, they have already done that; they can tell you what they really think about how it all played out. And I think it’s similar for the women of “The Golden Bachelor.”
Julia, a statistic that jumped out at me from your article was that the median viewer age for ABC, the network that airs the show, is 64. Why has it taken so long for a network to tap into dating shows for this demographic?
JACOBS The producers said that this show had been in the works for 10 years. They didn’t have a clear answer as to why it had taken so long, but they said they felt as if it was coming at a time when they were seeing a lot of messaging about empowerment in aging. They mentioned Martha Stewart appearing on the cover of Sports Illustrated and John Stamos posting a nude photo on Instagram for his 60th birthday.
HESS The baby boomers are such a culturally dominant generation.
JACOBS They’re certainly dominant in terms of cable viewership.
We’ve talked a lot about the show’s successes, but what about it doesn’t work for you?
HESS I don’t enjoy seeing women at any age having to justify the way they look to men. If you’ve never watched “The Bachelor,” the first episode of “The Golden Bachelor” will seem like the most sexist, ageist thing you’ve ever seen; one of the women did this age-play striptease involving an “old” wig and dress, as if to say, Don’t worry, I’m not like those other old people!
JACOBS I want to see more unfiltered interactions. You often hear Gerry and the women talk about their connection, but you don’t often see it in action. I’m interested in the mundane conversations about who they are, where they grew up and what their families are like.
Anything else you want to add?
HESS I’m curious if there’s going to be a “Golden Bachelorette.” I would love to see a group of older men.
JACOBS That’s something we’ll definitely watch out for. Maybe that’s our next story.