The Grift

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We have spent the better part of the last decade debating about Trump and his coterie of Grifters that define both his business, Trump Enterprises (whatever those were) that included Real Estate, Casinos, Clothing Lines, Wine, Classes/Seminars, Steak, and other labeled brands that extended to other members of the Family that shared the name of Trump. From the seat in the White House he managed to further extend that brand to the point it drew attention from the State of New York which prosecuted members of his corporation, his personal Attorney and finally Trump himself for acts of duplicity and fraud regarding his real estate “empire.” That led to a massive penalty which he will not or will pay and this will go on perhaps for years more. There are other debts, trials and tribulations that seem to never have an end game in sight and that is what falls into that classification of the “Long Con.” A long con is one that takes place over a much longer time frame, I feel the story on John Oliver’s show regarding Pig Butchering is a great example of one of the current crops of long con. Bitcoin is a fabulous example of how that also plays into this story. A great long con if ever there was one, with the nefarious invisible “Banksy” who created all this but no one really knows who he is, where he is and what is this about? But even Kara Swisher in her new Memoir writes of another in Silicon Valley, Mark Zuckerberg, who may be perhaps the best at this new type of Grift. Social Media is one long con.

This article in the New York Times discusses the growth of the Grift. And where I found this definition which I have paraphrased and added my own comments.

The difference between a Grifter and “Grafter” are often tied together. “Grift” evokes not so much specific criminal acts as a broad, opportunistic racket, executed with a bit of cunning and panache; Grafters are stolid and conventional, lining their pockets and then quietly retreating to one of their several homes. A Grifters has both flair and ambition, who seem to delight in the con itself — the cleverness of the scheme, the smooth ease with which the marks were gulled. So while Trump is a classic grifter take a look at many who attach themselves to his varying schemes and plans. Many worked for him during his Administration quickly extricating themselves post January 6th but would happily Vote and/or work for him again if the opportunity arose. A Grifter loves a Grafter as they give them legitimacy. I prefer the term “Enablers” which is another way of allowing or permitting if not encouraging the behavior, a person usually associated with Addiction and there is no greater addiction than money. All of Venture Capitalists are some type of Enabler. Without them or the banks would Sam Bankerman Fried or Bernie Madoff made as far and in his case as long without them?

Now we are all being grifted or are grafters at some point. We take an opportunity and we work it to our advantage. I like to think of Real Estate Agents as the lowest on the professional totem pole who play the role of Counselor, Financial Advisor and Best Friend as you try to buy or sell a home. They dip their wick in both pots often coming out well ahead of the game when you are working with one and this adds to the price of housing and why many cannot afford to as they work in tangent with another Grafter, the Mortgage Broker/Agent. Banks are not the only one who writes these loans and they too have a massive interest in making money, yours. The process of this led to a massive financial crisis in 2008 and yet not one saw a trial or a penalty in the process for this and many banks were bailed out and rescued from their misdeeds. But without the Agents and these secondary lenders, few would have made it to sign the papers and make the sales of a product they could not afford. Used Car Salesman get a bad rap, add Real Estate Agents to the list. There are many many more stories about Real Estate Agents and their acts of fraud and duplicity, and by far more costly. Just Google “Real Estate Fraud” to see the list of crimes they have committed.

This week a neighbor and her husband moved out of my building. He is a Surgeon and she is a “Model”/ Real Estate Agent. I did not like nor dislike them I simply lived down the hall from them and kept it at that. Upon their final move out our Refuse room was full of their rejects, disgusting broken furniture, filthy smelling couch cushions, and largely junky items that seemed to be from a college dorm than an adult professionals home. Their move out was done in a small order Uhaul truck with two hired hands who packed what they took with them to relocate to Pittsburgh. To say crap in both quality and design is to be polite. I had to remind myself that this Man was a fucking Surgeon and this filthy shit is his? His wife the model did not adorn herself with the quality of designer goods but they did have three vehicles, two Porches and Volvo. Well priorities. And while living in a building that is largely filled with Asian families and Students who live very cheaply I did laugh as it explains why the fascination with my decorated digs is a source of discussion. And for the record many many folks who rent now are taking it upon themselves to decorate and design living spaces that reflect their taste. And yes folks what comes up can come down and if you are responsible you restore, replace all what you did back to the shit the building gave you. Or you can be like the Doctor and his wife, leave it there and pay for that via forfeit of the damage deposit. Clearly he has the cash. But man would I want that Man operating on me? NO! Again, this is a choice and it takes a weekly wander outside any apartment building at end of month to see the treasures and trash left behind.

And that too is another kind of Grift, the tip. There is now an industry tied to the Tipping Economy. The complaints about the added “service fee” and the mandatory tip on screens when at the Bakery or Butcher even have made one wonder what is appropriate and how much also has become an insidious way of doing business. Living in already overpriced multi family housing means Tips at the Holiday time are mandated if not expected. For many the strain of tipping a building with often dozens of staff, many invisible can be an expensive proposition. To give you an idea, we have in our Building we have Six Front Desk Staff, some whom work Graveyard and often have limited Tenant contact but no less an important job in which to provide security and maintain package inventory and distribution for those who do collect them at odd times. The cleaning and maintenance staff are (often at times) 10 in number and do most of the heavy lifting; Add to that the Superintendent who oversees that crew and lastly the Manager and when we have one, an Assistant. (And for the record the Manager has massive problems holding staff so the turnover is high and often overtly dramatic adding to buildings toxic demeanor) So, at one point we have over 18 people we have to pay at some point, and how much and do all of them get it? I mean the fat fuck who is the Gossip troll deserves the most as that way you won’t be gossiped about right? He should get the most too as he is fat, old, barely walks and is a troll right? Over the young girl who works her ass off. But how about the former Lead who used her position as “helping people” by enabling those with Dogs and Kids to be largely ignored when the kids were running wild in the gym unsupervised or the Dogs shit everywhere or the ones that killed a dog and another attacking a woman, but they were “good” Tenants as they tipped more and more often. So that is hierarchy in Apartment living, who tips, how often and how much matters. And there are a lot of holidays and dates of import. Valentines Day, Lunar New Year, Holi, their birthdays, your birthday all are on the calendar and have cards ready in which to shove in that obligatory payment.

We think of Grift as something associated with Politicians and there is no greater profession guilty of it, but it is everywhere. It is the way we assert our control and and influence even in the most benign of situations. And with that we are not exempt from the fraud, the duplicity and the guilt associated with our role as Grifter or Grafter. The recent story about the New York Times Reporter who handed over 50K in cash to a recent scam, but the Bank who willingly handed over 50K in cash is the same banker who is supposed to notify the IRS if you have deposited more than 10K in your account to notify them as earnings. Or the payment apps if you have transfers exceeding 300 dollars. The Police who will take any amount a cash during a traffic stop legally as a it too is suspect under the guise of Civil Forfeiture. So that Estate Sale, Car Sale, or some transaction is all watched or monitored or taken as it is all seen as gotten gains. But taking it out and in cash to pay an extortion not a problem in the least.

Grift or Graft, the Con, the Long Con and we are all players or victims in the game. This article from Psychology Today explain who is more likely to be a victim, but in reality we all are at some point players in this game. It is just how much you lose what matters. We are all pigs waiting to be butchered.

The Art of the Con and Why People Fall for It

How the con is pulled off, why fraudsters are successful, and how to spot them.

Posted September 26, 2019 | Reviewed by Jessica Schrader

By definition, a con artist is a manipulator who cheats, or tricks, others through persuading them to believe something that is not true. Through deception, they fool people into believing they can make easy money when, in fact, it is the con artist who ends up taking the victim’s money. The criminal and legal consequences of such indiscretions can be insignificant or great, depending on the circumstances and the laws of the land. In the course of co-authoring The Crime Book, which covered more than 100 crimes, I researched and wrote a chapter about con artists. Their crimes are varied, as are their behaviors. But the one thing they each have in common is the power of persuasion to take advantage of unsuspecting people.

Name of the Game

The confidence game, as scam artistry is called, is one of the oldest tricks in the trade. It exploits people’s trust. Human nature is on the side of these masters of fraud when it comes to defrauding their marks, or victims, and contributes to the con’s enduring success. Perpetrators have been referred to everything from flimflam operators, hustlers, grifters, and tricksters. The victims have been called marks, suckers, and gulls. And while media publicity has further romanticized cons and put their crimes in the public eye, their actions are anything but glamorous.

Even further, the cost of the capers to victims may run anywhere from a couple hundred to a few million dollars, with some victims learning the hard way, using their own free will, that when an offer seems too good to be true, it probably is. In fact, the Federal Trade Commission reported that people lost $1.48 billion to fraud in 2018, an increase of 38 percent in 2017.

It Can Happen to You

How do unsuspecting people get duped to begin with? After all, even the most rational people have proven susceptible to crimes of trickery. That’s because con artists often prey on people’s trust and their propensity for believing what they wish was true—especially with get-rich-quick schemes and individual’s desire for a quick buck. They let their guard down and buy into what con artists feed them—all in the belief of the scammer and a high rate of return in exchange for a small investment, albeit a shady deal. But the convincing scammer skews the victim into thinking the payoff will come true and the scheme is legitimate.

Some famous con artists were at the top of their game—until they ultimately got caught. With impersonator Frank Abagnale and international career jewel thief Doris Payne, they are the epitome of the swindling game. By their own rights, they became experts at the art of the con and successfully evaded law enforcement for years. Two centuries earlier, Jeanne de la Motte, a cunning Frenchwoman, orchestrated a diamond necklace affair, which was one of several scandals that led to the French Revolution and helped destroy a monarchy.

Other significant confidence criminals, from forged artwork to fake manuscripts—Elmyr de Hory, a Hungarian-born forger of Picassos and Matisses, who sold more than a thousand pieces to art galleries worldwide, and novelist Clifford Irving, who wrote a fabricated autobiography of reclusive billionaire Howard Hughes. These stories break down how grifters pass off their own works as those of masters and literary greats—but eventually they too were caught.

A con artist can execute remarkable expertise in their trickery, as with Czechoslovakian Victor Lustig, who in an underhanded plot sold the Eiffel Tower for scrap metal—not once, but twice.

Psychology of the Con

Each of these con artists have one thing in common: the power of persuasion to swindle their victims. The successful ones exhibit three similar characteristics—psychopathy, narcissism and Machiavellianism—which have been referred to by psychologists as “dark” personality traits.

Those characteristics allow con artists to swindle people out of their money without feeling any remorse or guilt. Another thing most chiselers have in common are their egos. These extortion sales people boost the psyche of the perpetrators and make them feel even more confident, thus the description of the con has been termed as a confidence game.

Because cons often change their identities as part of their game, it can be pesky for law enforcement to catch them. Also, police may not even go after them when the crime has to do with bilking property and even money from their marks. That’s because the law can consider the loss a civil issue and not a legal one, unless it’s a corporate white-collar crime, such as those committed by Bernie Madoff, a former stockbroker, financier, and operator of a massive pyramid scheme that perpetrated the largest financial fraud in recent US history. Going after grifters is often of low status, more difficult to prove, and less likely to be prosecuted, with violent crimes and terrorist acts of higher priority.

That happenstance leads to a message for everyday people: Buyer beware.

Let’s Write

David Bowie infamously sang “Let’s Dance, put on your red shoes and dance with me” and with that I invite you to put on your best sweats and let’s write.

Two articles are below and one is under the self-help category in the New York Times. To appropriate an expression from RuPaul, “If you can’t write for yourself write for someone else.” And that is writing. Writing for a fickle group of Publishers, Readers and Agents who will determine if your work and in turn you are worthy of being allowed to be printed. Self-publishing has changed that dynamic somewhat, but that is a field of largely a hot mess of work that may or may not have gone through a process that is a part of writing, regardless of whom is the Writer. No one is in this alone despite what you believe and with that Writers and Editors have a symbiotic relationship that enables one to move forward in ways that few gatekeepers do. And I have toyed with the idea of self publishing and decided it frankly was truly a vanity expense that would be better spent on other things that have less to do with my ego and more to do with my personal happiness.

But as many Writers will tell you, the best readers are Writers and with that how many Writers produce self help books for Writers? I have a box full of them and many with great information but how many courses, books, seminars and workshops does one need? One needs real true honest criticism and feedback, true assistance and from actual professionals who are currently in the field and have current information that is honest and factual. Again, many Writers in the last few years have reported zero income which that alone is critical. And when an industry is busy consolidating or trying to, shutting down imprints and other sources/places for and/of writing in which to read, there again is a problem as where does one turn to submit pieces? And when they do who is evaluating them? Who is in fact keeping the gate closed at this point? For if there is no one in the building then the gate is not just shut it is locked. But with that numerous books on how to, classes on will you, endless workshops, lectures and newsletters on how to get published. Oddly by some one individual who was published or worked in the industry a decade ago. Hey the Messenger needs to change the message at some point as no one really knows what goes in that secret sauce it was one made so long ago. Has Publishing changed? Yes and no. But does anyone really know? But there is a class I am sure you can take where the curriculum has not changed in the last decade. Still pimping Social Media, establishing a platform and of course an email and newsletter list. In other words, nothing new, nothing addressing the collapsing of said alternative mediums, the layoffs of Journalists and closing of varying press, as well as the onslaught of numerous competitors; all with the same audience in which to fight over. Good luck! It makes sense why some Authors are simply ignoring that well beaten horse.

But with that I give you two essays on Books for Writers and another on rejection. And it the hard reality of many we will never be read but maybe if we write a book about that we will!

Want to Put Something in Writing? Read These Books.

Getting words onto a page can be a painful process. Authors of all abilities, help is within reach!

By Judith Newman The New York Times

Feb. 24, 2023

4 min read (I love these as it tells you absolutely nothing about reading but this is where we are folks!)

“Writing is easy,” the sportswriter Red Smith famously said. “I just open a vein and bleed.” As annoying as I find writers who dramatize their craft, the guy had a point. Every ink-stained wretch will tell you about the skills he’s developed in order to avoid the blank page. Because I have to turn this column in by tomorrow, for example, my house is spotless, there is a pork roast in the oven and I am killing it with 20 strangers on Words With Friends.

If you’re someone who, while perhaps not writing for a living, needs to produce a lot of words, here are a few new books that might help.

This is a picture of the cover of Carmine Gallo's book, "The Bezos Blueprint." The cover is robin's egg blue with the title and author's name printed in black and white.

Jeff Bezos is the Leonardo of the buying and delivery process, as anyone who’s addicted to Amazon Prime can tell you. In THE BEZOS BLUEPRINT: Communication Secrets of the World’s Greatest Salesman (St. Martin’s, 272 pp., $28.99), Carmine Gallo deconstructs 24 years of Bezos’ letters to shareholders, and shows how Amazon’s founder applies the streamlining spirit to his own correspondence. Gallo diligently covers Bezos’ way with persuasion, story structure and — central to everything — simplicity. That leather wallet you ordered from Amazon may arrive in a box that could accommodate the whole cow, but Bezos’ prose is wrapped up in small, elegant packages. Thank you, Alexa.

This is a picture of the cover of "Smart Brevity" by Jim VandeHei, Mike Allen and Roy Schwartz. The cover is white with black printing. The subtitle of the book — "The Power of Saying More With Less" — appears inside a yellow circle.

If you want to ditch the business buzz-speak and hold yourself accountable — if you’re the kind of writer who uses five words when one will do — study SMART BREVITY: The Power of Saying More With Less (Workman, 224 pp., $27). This master class in everyday business writing comes to you from Jim VandeHei, Mike Allen and Roy Schwartz, the creators of Politico and Axios.

“If we really don’t know what we want to say — or more likely, if we don’t really understand what we’re writing about — we paper it over by saying too much,” they write. I felt seen as I read this, and not in a good way.

Because Americans on average check our phones about once every four minutes, and because the average amount of time we spend reading a piece of “content” is 26 seconds, the authors want you to understand the importance of getting to the point. Short, not shallow, they like to say: “Think of smart brevity as a straitjacket on your worst instincts or habits.” They are funny, and they are right — and if you adopt even a portion of their stylistic suggestions, you will win the email/newsletter/shareholder-letter writing game.

This is a picture of the cover of James R. Hagerty's book, "Yours Truly." The title appears in a square in the midst of a page of newsprint. The title and the author's name are printed in purple and the subtitle — "An obituary writer's guide to telling your story" — appears in red.

James R. Hagerty’s YOURS TRULY: An Obituary Writer’s Guide to Telling Your Story (Citadel, 224 pp., $25) is supposed to be a guide to writing memoir — whether it’s an actual book or a handful of thoughtful paragraphs that are meant to be your (or a loved one’s) send-off. But isn’t writing your own obit a little morbid? Hagerty doesn’t think so. (As one funeral director put it, “Talking about sex doesn’t make you pregnant, and talking about death doesn’t make you dead.”) According to this Wall Street Journal veteran, the key to obit writing — or more expansive memoir, for that matter — can be summed up in three questions: What were you trying to do with your life? Why? And how did it work out?

Hagerty gives advice about how to interview, how to tell a story, what to include and what to omit. (“Your life story is not a nomination for sainthood.”) But really “Yours Truly” is mostly an excuse to relive (see what I did there?) memorable obituaries — of the famous, the infamous, the heroic and the deeply quirky. “If an obituary can’t be fun, what’s the point of dying?” Hagerty asks. Consider this line from an obit written by a son for his mother, Margaret Marilyn DeAdder: “Marilyn loved all children who weren’t her own and loved her own children relative to how cleanshaven they were.”

What about writing fiction? Occasionally, in a bout of self-loathing, I tell myself it’s time to finish my short story collection. Or start my short story collection. Or start a short story. Surely books on this subject would help?

This is a picture of the cover of “On Writing (and Writers)” by C.S. Lewis. The cover is red and the writing is gold and white.

I remain convinced that the only way to actually improve your writing, particularly for fiction, is to read your betters, which is why I was happy to see the compendium ON WRITING (AND WRITERS): A Miscellany of Advice and Opinions (HarperOne, 208 pp., $23.99), by C.S. Lewis. The author of “The Chronicles of Narnia” rails against what he calls “verbicide,” the murder of a word, which, he writes, “happens in many ways. Inflation is one of the commonest. Those who taught us to say awfully for ‘very,’ tremendous for ‘great,’ sadism for ‘cruelty’ and unthinkable for ‘undesirable’ were verbicides.”

While writing about writing is often deadly, Lewis is as delightful as he is wise. He offered this indispensable advice to an aspiring child writer named Thomasine in 1959: “1. Turn off the radio. 2. Read all the good books you can, and avoid nearly all magazines. 3. Always write (and read) with the ear, not the eye. You should hear every sentence you write as if it was being read aloud or spoken. If it does not sound nice, try again.”


Judith Newman is the author of “To Siri With Love: A Mother, Her Autistic Son and the Kindness of Machines.”

With that reading list firmly in place let’s talk about failure. Silicon Valley seems to think of that as a success but with Writing not so much. I do want to stress that we have many forms of failure but for Writers it is a daily experience. And with rejection comes frustration. As I said above, we do not get the feedback, the genuine critiques that will help us improve our writing. Well unless you pay for it. I am submitting a Travel piece to a Contest that has no fee but if I want feedback, however, I can 50 bucks. I’ll pass as I wonder if like Travel you get what you pay for. I have NO IDEA who is doing said feedback, their skills or experience. Think about that next time you submit something.

And I have a book to sell you… on how I never could publish a book!

The Fine Art of Failure

Rejection, not acceptance, defines writing life.By Stephen Marche

February 21, 2023 The Atlantic

English has provided a precise term of art to describe the writerly condition: submission. Writers live in a state of submission. Submission means rejection. Rejection is the condition of the practice of submission, which is the practice of writing. Rejection, not acceptance, is what defines the life of a writer.

And rejection has never been easier. Digital technology has allowed people to be rejected at exponentially higher rates. I’ve known writers who used to submit, literally, the manuscript of a work. It might loiter for six months in some publisher’s office before being returned by way of a self-addressed stamped envelope. Under the conditions of print, a dozen failures a year were difficult to accumulate. Today, if you work at it, you can fail a dozen times before lunch.

I kept a scrupulous account of my rejections until I reached the 2,000 mark. That was in my late 20s. Last week, I was rejected seven times. I had to go back and check. I don’t notice rejection much anymore.

Many writers don’t talk about their rejections, even among themselves. I’ve been lucky enough to know some of the most successful writers of my generation, men and women who have won all the prizes, who have received all the accolades, who have achieved fame insofar as writerly fame exists. The wins don’t seem to make much difference: They don’t protect them from the sense that they’ve been misunderstood, that the world doesn’t recognize who they are. If you’re a writer who’s just starting out, you must think either I’m lying or they’re crazy. All I can tell you is that I’m not lying.

The psychology of failure and success can work the other way too. I once knew a professor who published a single letter in The Times Literary Supplement. He constantly brought it up. He had it framed, hung on his wall. On the basis of that letter, he considered himself a major intellectual, part of “the larger conversation.” And who’s to say he’s wrong? Maybe the works of Jonathan Franzen will slowly disappear and future scholars will discover and celebrate “the TLS letter.”

Writing without perseverance does exist, although it’s rare and such is the nature of the enterprise that to write without perseverance requires its own kind of perseverance. “Celebrity, even the modest sort that comes to writers, is an unhelpful exercise in self-consciousness,” John Updike wrote. “One can either see or be seen. Most of the best fiction is written out of early impressions, taken in before the writer became conscious of himself as a writer … The ‘successful’ writer acquires a film over his eyes. His eyes get fat.” Add another contradiction to the business of writing: Success destroys what gives success. Without struggle, there is the struggle of no struggle.

In the United States, after the Second World War, there was a strange phenomenon of career-ending literary triumph. After Invisible Man, Ralph Ellison became more than a writer; he was a sort of fusion of political and artistic achievement for whom mere composition of manuscripts may have seemed like some quaint old-world ritual. Success silenced him. He left behind, from the second half of his life, only some loose notes that editors have struggled to turn into a cohesive work.

Joseph Mitchell, the New Yorker writer, finished his masterpiece, “Joe Gould’s Secret,” in 1964. He went into the office regularly for the next 32 years and contributed not one word to the magazine. His colleague Calvin Trillin remembered hearing that Mitchell had lived “writing away at a normal pace until some professor called him the greatest living master of the English declarative sentence and stopped him cold.”

Some of the most successful writers develop a nostalgie de la boue, a craving for the gutter. Alex Haley, the author of Roots, lived the standard life of total rejection for many years. He remembered the phrasing of one rejection note from Reader’s Digest: “Dear Mr. Haley: We’re sorry, but this does not quite jell for us.” Years later, after Roots was published, Haley found himself on the Readers Digest corporate jet. “I walked up the runway into the plane, and I looked around at seats for about 14 people, but there was nobody but me. One of the men came up and said, ‘Sir, if you’d like, there’s scotch, bourbon, cigars, cigarettes,’ and there was everything. There was a silver tray with all kinds of little sandwiches cut in circles, diamonds, and everything.” What did he contemplate at this moment of personal victory? “I remembered those rejection slips and what they said. And the thought just came to me: ‘Well, I guess it finally jelled.’” Even in the face of massive success, a little part, maybe a big part, maybe the biggest part of the writer’s heart dwells in failure.

All creative careers demand persistence, because all creative careers require luck. In 2015, at a South by Southwest session, casting directors from Fox, Paramount, and Disney estimated that the talent of any actor accounted for about 7 percent of the reason they were cast in any given role. Age and ethnicity and “box office value in China” all have their say. An actor’s success is related only incidentally to talent or effort. Painters and sculptors and designers and dancers and musicians all create under the same capriciousness of fortune. Even so, the life of a writer demands a peculiar persistence. Writers make meaning. They trade, equally, in illusion and disillusion. To live in the quaking of meaning is to shudder from your feet up.

Occasionally, I will meet with a younger writer who has confused me with somebody to be envied. They want to know what it’s like to write professionally. My good news is the same as my bad news: Rejection never ends. Success is no cure. Success only alters to whom, or what, you may submit. Rejection is the river in which we swim. If you are sending short stories to literary journals, you are engaged in the same activity as the biggest writers. The difference is one of scale, not of kind or quality. This is hard to explain to younger writers. The problem is probably not that they’re being rejected too much but that they’re being rejected too little. Most people tell you to develop calluses. It’s not enough—you have to relish the rejection. Rejection is the evidence of your hustle. Rejection is the sign that you are throwing yourself against the door.


Holiday Plans?

Mexico or Hawaii for Seattle were the number one or two, depending on whom you asked, the choice of holiday destinations.  Rain wearers love sun and sand as the green gets old after a rainy fall and winter.    My family never went to Mexico and I have never been for no reason other than my Parents went was I was young, hated it and that ended that.  Hawaii was then the number one place after I grew too old for Disneyland.

I have never had an urge to go to Mexico, love the people and the food well the real Mexican kind yes, the stuff we call Mexican like its Chinese counterpart not so much.  It was well into adulthood when I discovered both cuisines in San Francisco and never looked back.  But today my true love is Indian and Thai and then Greek/Middle Eastern.  Our tastes do change even when we do not. 

Perhaps it is one too many Narcos story or the concept of the wall, the trek of Immigrants who put me at pause, as  if they don’t want to live there why would I go there?

Then we had the last years death by alcohol and other odd tales from Mexican resorts that once again puts the blame on Mame aka the “victims.”   Yes when one goes to an all inclusive resort in the fun and the sun a nice sparkling water is all one needs.   I am the first to admit when I holiday I drink less as I need to get around, but all inclusive resort means just that and in turn you are walled in and off from the rest of the village so ostensibly safer and in turn you can let down your hair and relax.  Well as Frankie says, relax don’t do it when you want to come.  They just didn’t mean Mexico.

Then I read the article below about the resorts and the role Trip Advisor took in preventing warning to potential Guests and other Tourists to the area.  You may not stay at said resort but a red flag warning is just that and like working with Harvey Weinstein it would be great to get a head’s up there.

Ask the family about the little boy at the Disney Resort killed by an Alligator.  They knew.

The Millwaukee Journal Sentinel did an excellent piece about the subject and is worthy of looking through it and reading the horrific stories of sexual assault, robbery and abuse that took place at what are four star resorts.    And all of this before Trump, god only knows what treatment Americans would get there!   In all honesty this can happen anywhere and does so no it is not Mexicans are rapists but this now fuels that fire but poverty, anger, misdirected assholeness does play a role.  Again look to the now 100’s of women coming forward about varying men in power.  Irony that only one man came forward about one man and in turn the hammer hit quick and hard.  When women do the same they get “well you should not have had a drink with him”  “you should not have let him in the house” “go in the car with him”   Okay so change the pronoun to her and then would we have the respect finally for girl on girl action?

So what does this mean for many Mexican villages and towns that make their living from largely vacation dollars?  And in turn the earthquakes that have rocked Mexico also puts into question their long term financial viability. Add to that of course the drug cartels and crime that has led to this in the first place.  When people cannot get jobs, get an education and provide for their families in ways that legal, long term and viable you get that.   We are in a very vulnerable  place when it comes to Mexico, the wall, NAFTA, DACA and of course Immigration in general.  This is not going to help anyone but getting one’s house in order would start by allowing people to tell their truth and in turn actually listening and in turn investigating.  If wrong then the penalty phase to begin, if right, the penalty phase to begin.  Either way people need respect to be heard, businesses need legitimate claims and reviews in order to function properly and orderly.  Obfuscating facts means this goes on for years and more get hurt.  It is no holiday to find yourself drugged and raped and in turn no one will listen.  But that is a problem it seems everywhere. 


TripAdvisor apologizes after removing claims of rape and assault to keep its forums ‘family friendly’


By Rachel Siegel The Washington Post November 2 2017

Just after midnight on Dec. 9, 2010, Kristie Love posted on TripAdvisor about the Iberostar Paraiso Maya, a Mexican beach resort between Cancun and Playa del Carmen. In the post’s title, Love included three things: the name of the resort, the date of her stay, and the word “Rape.”

After a night out with friends, Love, now 35, wrote of how she went back to her hotel room to find that her electronic key card had been deactivated. On her way back to the lobby, Love stopped to ask for directions from a uniformed guard. That guard then raped her, she said. Later on, the hotel staff would not call the police.

Love’s story was published Wednesday as part of a lengthy investigation by the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel documenting repeated instances where the travel and restaurant website, which includes reviews and public forums, removed posts warning of alleged rape, assault or other injuries at Mexican resorts.

Love told the Journal Sentinel that a TripAdvisor moderator spotted her post and decided it went against the company’s “family friendly” tenets. TripAdvisor refused to show the Journal Sentinel which posts it had deleted, the newspaper reported.

The post went back up online in October — seven years after Love’s original submission. But the post was republished chronologically alongside other posts from Dec. 2010 — on the forum’s 2,608th page.

Love was hardly alone.

The Journal Sentinel spoke with more than a dozen travelers who said TripAdvisor blocked their warning messages after they traveled to Mexico. In July, the newspaper began investigating the death of a Wisconsin college student in Mexico. That reporting uncovered widespread safety issues, including those tied to tainted alcohol, at Mexican resorts.

Another woman told the Journal Sentinel that in 2011, she had been raped by a security guard in the same resort complex. Four years after that, Jamie Valeri, now 34, said she was sexually assaulted at the same resort after she and her husband suddenly blacked out in broad daylight after only a few drinks.

Valeri told the Journal Sentinel that she too had tried to write a warning message on TripAdvisor. But her post was deemed “hearsay” and was subsequently removed.

Had Love’s 2010 post been preserved by TripAdvisor, “maybe we wouldn’t have gone or maybe that wouldn’t have happened to me,” Valeri told the Journal Sentinel.

On Wednesday, TripAdvisor posted a statement in response to the Journal Sentinel article, which included an apology to Love, “the sexual assault victim reported on in the article, who had her forum post removed seven years ago on TripAdvisor.”

The company said that seven years ago, “all language needed to be G-rated,” but that the policy has since changed “to allow more descriptive reviews on the site about firsthand accounts of serious incidents like rape or assault.”

“We will continue to work to improve and evolve our moderation and publishing guidelines as we work to provide the most accurate information in the travel industry available online,” the statement read.

The company did not immediately respond to a request for comment.

The Journal Sentinel described another instance in which a woman posted on TripAdvisor asking whether she and her husband should vacation in Riviera Maya. They had read about vacationers who blacked out there and were assaulted, robbed, raped or even died of problems with alcohol.

Fifty-five responses came in. Twenty-four of them were positive, four were irrelevant, and the remaining 27 had been taken down, replaced by a TripAdvisor message saying the deleted posts were “determined to be inappropriate by the TripAdvisor community,” were “off-topic” or promoted language or topics that weren’t “family friendly.”

The Journal Sentinel investigation identified other policies that the newspaper said “obscure the public’s ability to fully evaluate the information on its site.” Mysterious algorithms dictate the hotels and resorts that appear with each customer search, the article aid. TripAdvisor gets commissions from certain hotels when customers book or travel. And some users have “special privileges” that enable them to delete posts.

The Journal Sentinel said TripAdvisor would not disclose how those distinct users are selected, or how many negative reviews — including those warning of serious dangers — are blocked from public viewing.

“Once we determine that content should be removed and violated our guidelines for publishing, that information is no longer publishable or promotable by TripAdvisor,” TripAdvisor spokesman Brian Hoyt told the Journal Sentinel.

TripAdvisor told the Journal Sentinel last week that the company is creating a new “badge” system used to alert travelers to major news stories warning of health and safety concerns at hotels and restaurants.

Speaking of Love’s post warning about safety concerns at Iberostar Paraiso Maya, Hoyt told the Journal Sentinel that “it’s the kind of information we absolutely want published.” Hoyt also acknowledged that “about a dozen” deleted posts would be republished.

TripAdvisor’s scope is vast. According to its website, TripAdvisor has 390 million monthly visitors and 500 million reviews and opinions. It manages 49 sites in 28 different languages and has 96 million members.

Keeping a grip on such a wide user base has also tested TripAdvisor’s ability to screen for unverified posts alleging harmful information. The Washington Post has reported on the risk of users being sued for writing negative online reviews. Another article also noted businesses that taint their online profiles by posting their own positive reviews or paying guests to write similar endorsements.

Hoyt told the Journal Sentinel that the company uses an array of screening aids to weed out fake reviews and has about 300 employees dedicated to that line of work.

“We’re not an arbiter of fact, but we’re trying to provide the most accurate picture,” he said.
Still, some users maintain that their painful stories of rape, assault, blackouts or other injury were wrongfully taken down.

Those include parents of people who died at Mexican resorts and were blocked from warning others on TripAdvisor.

Doctor Yelps!

For the record we need to start reviewing Attorneys, Judges and even Police Officers. Any public municipal or federal employee as well. They are public servants and should and can be evaluated by the public, the people who pay their salary have every right to comment on the treatment they get.

Since it is near to impossible to sue Medical care providers the forum of public persuation is the only way to make sure people are aware of what these butchers and assholes do. Frankly I can’t be bothered with regards to cookie stores and coffee shops, that is utterly a personal subjective matter and that is small fry financially and logistically to give a shit. But in regards to life issues, yes.

Doctors fire back at bad Yelp reviews — and reveal patients’ information online
By Charles Ornstein | Pro Publica May 27 2016

Burned by negative reviews, some health providers are casting their patients’ privacy aside and sharing intimate details online as they try to rebut criticism.

In the course of these arguments — which have spilled out publicly on ratings sites like Yelp — doctors, dentists, chiropractors and massage therapists, among others, have divulged details of patients’ diagnoses, treatments and idiosyncrasies.

One Washington state dentist turned the tables on a patient who blamed him for the loss of a molar: “Due to your clenching and grinding habit, this is not the first molar tooth you have lost due to a fractured root,” he wrote. “This tooth is no different.”

In California, a chiropractor pushed back against a mother’s claims that he misdiagnosed her daughter with scoliosis. “You brought your daughter in for the exam in early March 2014,” he wrote. “The exam identified one or more of the signs I mentioned above for scoliosis. I absolutely recommended an x-ray to determine if this condition existed; this x-ray was at no additional cost to you.”

And a California dentist scolded a patient who accused him of misdiagnosing her. “I looked very closely at your radiographs and it was obvious that you have cavities and gum disease that your other dentist has overlooked. … You can live in a world of denial and simply believe what you want to hear from your other dentist or make an educated and informed decision.”

Health professionals are adapting to a harsh reality in which consumers rate them on sites like Yelp, Vitals and RateMDs much as they do restaurants, hotels and spas. The vast majority of reviews are positive. But in trying to respond to negative ones, some providers appear to be violating the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act, the federal patient privacy law known as HIPAA. The law forbids them from disclosing any patient health information without permission.

Yelp has given ProPublica unprecedented access to its trove of public reviews — more than 1.7 million in all — allowing us to search them by keyword. Using a tool developed by the Department of Computer Science and Engineering at the NYU Polytechnic School of Engineering, we identified more than 3,500 one-star reviews (the lowest) in which patients mention privacy or HIPAA. In dozens of instances, responses to complaints about medical care turned into disputes over patient privacy.

The patients affected say they’ve been doubly injured — first by poor service or care and then by the disclosure of information they considered private.

The shock of exposure can be effective, prompting patients to back off.

“I posted a negative review” on Yelp, a client of a California dentist wrote in 2013. “After that, she posted a response with details that included my personal dental information. … I removed my review to protect my medical privacy.”

The consumer complained to the Office for Civil Rights within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, which enforces HIPAA. The office warned the dentist about posting personal information in response to Yelp reviews. It is currently investigating a New York dentist for divulging personal information about a patient who complained about her care, according to a letter reviewed by ProPublica.

The office couldn’t say how many complaints it has received in this area because it doesn’t track complaints this way. ProPublica has previously reported about the agency’s historic inability to analyze its complaints and identify repeat HIPAA violators.

Deven McGraw, the office’s deputy director of health information privacy, said health professionals responding to online reviews can speak generally about the way they treat patients but must have permission to discuss individual cases. Just because patients have rated their health provider publicly doesn’t give their health provider permission to rate them in return.

“If the complaint is about poor patient care, they can come back and say, ‘I provide all of my patients with good patient care’ and ‘I’ve been reviewed in other contexts and have good reviews,’ ” McGraw said. But they can’t “take those accusations on individually by the patient.”

McGraw pointed to a 2013 case out of California in which a hospital was fined $275,000 for disclosing information about a patient to the media without permission, allegedly in retaliation for the patient complaining to the media about the hospital.

Yelp’s senior director of litigation, Aaron Schur, said most reviews of doctors and dentists aren’t about the actual health care delivered but rather their office wait, the front office staff, billing procedures or bedside manner. Many health providers are careful and appropriate in responding to online reviews, encouraging patients to contact them offline or apologizing for any perceived slights. Some don’t respond at all.

“There’s certainly ways to respond to reviews that don’t implicate HIPAA,” Schur said.

In 2012, University of Utah Health Care in Salt Lake City was the first hospital system in the country to post patient reviews and comments online. The system, which had to overcome doctors’ resistance to being rated, found positive comments far outnumbered negative ones.

“If you whitewash comments, if you only put those that are highly positive, the public is very savvy and will consider that to be only advertising,” said Thomas Miller, chief medical officer for the University of Utah Hospitals and Clinics.

Unlike Yelp, the University of Utah does not allow comments about a doctor’s medical competency and it does not allow physicians to respond to comments.

In discussing their battles over online reviews, patients said they’d turned to ratings sites for closure and in the hope that their experiences would help others seeking care. Their providers’ responses, however, left them with a lingering sense of lost trust.

Angela Grijalva brought her then 12-year-old daughter to Maximize Chiropractic in Sacramento, Calif., a couple years ago for an exam. In a one-star review on Yelp, Grijalva alleged that chiropractor Tim Nicholl led her daughter to “believe she had scoliosis and urgently needed x-rays, which could be performed at her next appointment. … My daughter cried all night and had a tough time concentrating at school.”

But it turned out her daughter did not have scoliosis, Grijalva wrote. She encouraged parents to stay away from the office.

Nicholl replied on Yelp, acknowledging that Grijalva’s daughter was a patient (a disclosure that is not allowed under HIPAA) and discussing the procedures he performed on her and her condition, though he said he could not disclose specifics of the diagnosis “due to privacy and patient confidentiality.”

“The next day you brought your daughter back in for a verbal review of the x-rays and I informed you that the x-rays had identified some issues, but the good news was that your daughter did not have scoliosis, great news!” he recounted. “I proceeded to adjust your daughter and the adjustment went very well, as did the entire appointment; you made no mention of a ‘misdiagnosis’ or any other concern.”

In an interview, Grijalva said Nicholl’s response “violated my daughter and her privacy.”

“I wouldn’t want another parent, another child to go through what my daughter went through: the panic, the stress, the fear,” she added.

Nicholl declined a request for comment. “It just doesn’t seem like this is worth my time,” he said. His practice has mixed reviews on Yelp, but more positive than negative.

A few years ago, Marisa Speed posted a review of North Valley Plastic Surgery in Phoenix after her then-3-year-old son received stitches there for a gash on his chin. “Half-way through the procedure, the doctor seemed flustered with my crying child. …,” she wrote. “At this point the doctor was more upset and he ended up throwing the instruments to the floor. I understand that dealing with kids requires extra effort, but if you don’t like to do it, don’t even welcome them.”

An employee named Chase replied on the business’s behalf: “This patient presented in an agitated and uncontrollable state. Despite our best efforts, this patient was screaming, crying, inconsolable, and a danger to both himself and to our staff. As any parent that has raised a young boy knows, they have the strength to cause harm.”

Speed and her husband complained to the Office for Civil Rights. “You may wish to remove any specific information about current or former patients from your Web-blog,” the Office for Civil Rights wrote in an October 2013 letter to the surgery center.

In an email, a representative of the surgery center declined to comment. “Everyone that was directly involved in the incident no longer works here. The nurse on this case left a year ago, the surgeon in the case retired last month, and the administrator left a few years ago,” he wrote.

Health providers have tried a host of ways to try to combat negative reviews. Some have sued their patients, attracting a torrent of attention but scoring few, if any, legal successes. Others have begged patients to remove their complaints.

Jeffrey Segal, a onetime critic of review sites, now says doctors need to embrace them. Beginning in 2007, Segal’s company, Medical Justice, crafted contracts that health providers could give to patients asking them to sign over the copyright to any reviews, which allowed providers to demand that negative ones be removed. But after a lawsuit, Medical Justice stopped recommending the contracts in 2011.

Segal said he has come to believe reviews are valuable and that providers should encourage patients who are satisfied to post positive reviews and should respond — carefully — to negative ones.

“For doctors who get bent out of shape to get rid of negative reviews, it’s a denominator problem,” he said. “If they only have three reviews and two are negative, the denominator is the problem. …If you can figure out a way to cultivate reviews from hundreds of patients rather than a few patients, the problem is solved.”

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